There are definitely times when I wish I had a better routine for handling my emotions!
Posted: 11:22AM on Jul 2, 2019 | By Pynora
Posted: 2:25PM on Sep 29, 2019 | By Pynora
We’ve all had them: days when everything just seems to go awry. It may be due to a serious tragedy that causes you to lose all hope. Sometimes, however, it can boil down to simply being a ‘bad day’.
If you’ve had a bad day, you probably recognize the feeling of hopelessness, despair, and lack of motivation, when the only thing you really want to do is curl up and cry. As tempting hiding under the covers may feel, however, it may not be the best solution to make you feel better.
Psychologists recommend trying to find the root of the negative feelings before figuring out your next steps. Sometimes, a bad mood can strike you seemingly out of nowhere but even if you’re in generally good health and live a happy life, the stress of your daily activity can take its toll at the most unfortunate time. The first step towards making yourself feel better is to acknowledge and actually honor the negative feelings. Don’t be tempted to project on others or yourself (by telling yourself you’re a failure, no good or anything along these lines). Instead, treat yourself with compassion, just like you would do a friend who’s been feeling poorly.
A neat trick to make yourself feel better is to be better. Do a small kind act towards someone: a friend, a family member or just a stranger on the streets. This can ‘trick’ your brain into making you feel better because you’ve done an altruistic act. Studies have shown that being kind can provide you with immediate gratification. Even if you only do it so you feel better, you’re still helping someone else and making the world a better place! What’s more, chances are the person you’re helping may be going through a bad day on their own and your kindness helps both of you.
We, humans, are social creatures. As tempting as curling up and crying your feelings out, social isolation may be the last thing you need on a bad day. Instead, strive for connection. Connect with a friend or someone who just ‘gets’ you – a loved one who you feel comfortable opening up to and sharing your vulnerabilities. Pick up the phone, text your BFF or simply go for a coffee with your Mum. Vent about your day – chances are you will feel much better after you’ve had a talk.
However, make sure to connect with positive people. We all have our lows but when you’re in a bad mood, talking to someone even more negative than you can achieve the opposite effect. On your lowest days, your heart may be just too raw to handle too much negativity and cynicism. Find that person who always beams a big smile and ask them out for an ice cream in the park!
Alright, hear us out. We know that heading for the gym is probably the last thing you want to do on a bad day but it may actually be the best and most efficient way to bring your good spirits back. Exercise is known to release endorphins – the ‘feel good’ hormones – so a jog in the park or a quick weight-lifting session can be the ultimate cure to the ‘bad day’ syndrome.
Stock up on music on your phone (but steer clear of slow, sad songs) and head out. Bonus points if you score some sunshine on the way.
Being connected is good but sometimes, it’s the very reason for your bad mood. We are constantly surrounded by information and most of us don’t know how to unplug. You spend a day in the office only to get back home and continue receiving emails, reading about the news and listening to friends’ and loved’ ones rants.
Sometimes, the best cure for a bad mood is just unplugging: both figuratively and literally. Shut off your phone and laptop and simplify your life. This is especially true for introverted personality types which can often get overwhelmed – and over-stressed – due to too much communication. Take a walk in nature or read a book by the open window. Be present: take slow breaths and look around yourself, listen to the sounds and take the world in.
Often, we are so busy taking care of others that we forget ourselves. Neglecting your mental health can contribute to building stress which in turn can cause a cascade of ‘bad days’. Self-compassion and self-care are a must when it comes to going through difficult times. Throw away the junk food and the alcohol: they’re not your friends in your time of need. Instead, focus on nourishing your body and giving your mind what it needs – whether it’s a delicious home-cooked stew or a lavish bubble bath and the house to yourself.
Couple self-care with an exercise regimen to get the most out of the feel-good hormones. You don’t need to go all out: a slow walk in the park and a bit of fresh air and sunshine can do wonders for your mood.
You will have bad days – all of us do. Sometimes, no matter how much time you take to yourself, how much you exercise, how well you eat or how great your support system is, you just feel defeated, hopeless and sad.
And that’s entirely alright. Understanding, acknowledging and accepting the negative feelings as a natural part of life is the key to beating the blues. If you’re having a bad day due to a specific event – something happened at work, you had a fight with a friend or significant other, you lost someone or something important – thinking about your feelings and allowing yourself time to grieve is of the essence.
Sometimes, however, you will have unprovoked bad days. When these strike, tell yourself that this, too, will pass. What happens to you is often out of your control but what you do about it is entirely up to you. Remind yourself how you made it through the last time you had a bad day: once your brain ‘remembers’ that you survived it, it will predict that you will make it through this time again. It may not necessarily turn the bad day into a good day but even so-so days are alright.
3:22 PM - Sep 29, 2019
Hit the gym
Going to the gym will always be my best ally. Do an extreme cardio routine for 45 min and then workout, it is the best therapy for any "bad" day (stress, sadness, depression, etc.). Feeling your body, every muscle, your sweat, the energy that develops during exercise, makes you feel alive at the end of the day. There are no bad days after that.
1:38 PM - Jul 19, 2019
Eat chocolate / sweets
American consumer choice that makes finances more logical, but at the same time for me it shows me the struggle of helping me become more comfortable in the purchasing retrospect, especially when the items I sometimes buy are gone;
12:40 AM - Jul 18, 2019
Socialize / talk to others
It helps to take one out of their "self" and perhaps find out that what we thought was a bad day isn't so bad afterall. We may even find a reason to smile when socializing with friends, and we all know that is a good thing.
9:45 PM - Sep 28, 2019
Play computer games / sports
To me the best way to make a bad day slightly better is to play an old computer game that I didn't play for years, makes your mind forget about those things that happened
6:43 AM - Jul 16, 2019
Other (please specify) : Hike
Regardless of the type of nature, it always allows me to clear my head. If I need to relax, think, process, or just find a distraction, being around nature gives me that.
4:15 AM - Jul 14, 2019
Other (please specify) : I have many outlets but my two passions are singing and songwriting and animal activism.
Singing and songwriting is such a clear form of expression. . .even if it's the most ambiguous song, it is still a map of it's mother.